Relationships take work.
I’m not just talking boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. I’m talking about relationships with friends, family and significant others as well. Want to have all your relationships to be great? Check out these 20 things you need to do in your relationships.
- Free yourself from negative people. Having negative energy around you can make you become negative as well. Spending time with nice people will make you feel better and give you better energy.
- Let go of those who are already gone. The sad truth is sometimes people are only there for you because you have something they need. They left your life for a reason, so let them go. In the end, they probably taught you something. Whether it’s good or bad, learn from it.
- Give people you don’t know a fair chance. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about, and everyone has a story.
- Always show everyone kindness and respect. Like in a previous blog we wrote, always smile. Even if someone is rude to you, be kind back. Who knows what they’re going through right? And who knows, you may just change their day.
- Accept people the way they are. Most people don’t like to change, so don’t force them to. Accept them as is and lead by example.
- Always encourage others. It always feels good when people cheer for you, so why not return the favor? Encourage people in all their successes and accomplishments.
- I love this one. “Be your imperfectly perfect self.” Nobody is perfect. That’s what makes us original. You don’t want to be a copy of someone else right?
- This one is tough for me but it’s very true. Always forgive people and try to move on. Forgiving doesn’t mean the other person has to be right and got their way, it’s showing that you are above that and not going to let someone ruin your happiness. Forgive for your own happiness, not theirs.
- Do something little for someone every day. I’m a strong believer in Karma, and what goes around comes around. Something little to you can mean a lot to someone else.
- Always be loyal to everyone. Most people nowadays compete to have the most friends rather than find ones that’ll be loyal to you. Be loyal to your friends and real ones will shine through.
- Work on staying in better touch with those that matter to you. I live far away from my family. Thankfully I have my boyfriend so I’m not alone, but for that reason I talk to my friends and family all the time back home. One of my best friends still lives there and I’ve known her since I was 5. We talk a few times a week and I’m so grateful for it. Same with my family.
- Never break promises and always tell the truth. This may seem obvious, but not many people do this. You don’t like it when your feelings are hurt, so don’t hurt someone else.
- Give what you want to receive. One of my favorite quotes is “a hand that is open to give is open to receive.” Don’t expect to receive something from someone that you’re not willing to give.
- Say what you mean and mean what you say. Another one of my favorite quotes from Dr. Seuss! “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” All in all, give people the information they need rather than expecting them to know.
- Don’t try to make decisions for other people. What might be good for one person may not be good for another.
- Talk less listen more. Not everyone needs advice. Sometimes they just need someone to listen.
- Leave the little petty arguments alone. Sleep on it first. If it still bothers you the next day then say something. If not, let it go.
- Make sure you pay attention to your relationship to yourself. Don’t lose yourself to someone just so you can fit in. Don’t forget you’re special too.
- Make sure you know who your real friends are. Take notice of who’s always there to help you in the end. If you fall, they’ll be the ones who help pick you back up.
- Last but not least, ignore hurtful and unconstructive criticism. No one has a right to judge anyone, so don’t let anyone judge you. No matter what stories they heard, no one knows what you went through but you.
This is one of my favorite lists. It’s just a simple reminder of how to keep your best and closest relationships. Haven’t done all of these? Then start now! These are great words to remember.